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Setting Priorities
Wedding planning can be overwhelming
and difficult to know where to begin. This is after
all, probably the biggest event you have or ever
will plan. A good place to start is to write down
your priorities.
Sit down with your fiancé and write down your vision
for your wedding. Share with each other what is
really important to you and why. Cross off each
others lists the items you really can’t live with.
If he’s intent on wearing Bermuda shorts and sandals
on a beach, but you want the princess ball gown and
to walk down the aisle of a cathedral, you need to
communicate.
Talk about why it’s important to you and try to find
the win win opportunities so you both can have your
dream wedding. Most important is to LISTEN to each
other and not just think of what you want to say,
while they are still talking. If you listen well
enough and find out the underlying issues, you can
usually find a way of getting what you both want
instead of compromising and both only getting half
of what you want.
If that’s not possible, show good faith and
compromise on the items that are not as important to
you. If you give in one area, perhaps he will give
in another. This process may be necessary with your
parents too. If they are sponsoring your wedding
financially, they will have a say in how it unfolds.
They can be important in helping set a baseline for
realistic priorities.
Setting your priorities can make the decision making
process so much easier. If you know you want high
end professional photography, you can plan on making
up the difference financially in other areas with
less priority. Perhaps you can have a talented
friend step in as DJ instead of getting a band.
Maybe you want a really hopping party so you get the
professional DJ and serve a less expensive dish at
dinner.
You choose what is most important to you. Just be
careful not to give up what you want most for what
you want right now. Getting what you want shouldn’t
be at the expense of those that are closest to you.
If you keep perspective on what’s important and set
realistic priorities for your wedding, everyone can
get what they want.
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