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To Get the Wedding You Really Want
To get what you want, you need to know what you
want. A good place to start is to write down your
priorities. Sit down with your fiancé and write
down your vision for your wedding. Share with each
other what is really important to you and why.
Cross off each others lists the items you really
can’t live with. If he’s intent on wearing Bermuda
shorts and sandals on a beach, but you want the
princess ball gown and to walk down the aisle of a
cathedral, you need to communicate. Talk about why
it’s important to you and try to find the win win
opportunities so you both have your dream wedding.
Most important is to LISTEN to each other and not
just think of what you want to say next while they
are talking. Compromise on the items that are not
as important to you. If you give in one area,
perhaps he will give in another. This process may
be necessary with your parents too. If they are
sponsoring your wedding financially, they will have
a say in how it unfolds.
The old adage “You get what you pay for” still rings
true. To get what you want for the price you can
afford, you may have to work a little harder. As an
example, hotels and golf courses are fantastic
venues for weddings because they have beautiful
facilities and can provide most of the services you
need in one stop. However, it can be pricey
depending on some of the choices you make. When you
have a smaller less expensive venue, you may not
spend as much, but you will be running around a lot
to arrange for catering, decorating, renting,
serving, setting up, cleaning up, etc. So if what
you want is out of your reach financially, ask the
vendor if there is someone they recommend in your
budget range. Maybe they are mentoring someone in
the same field that is just starting out and is
looking for more experience. You could also ask
what they can remove from the offering to better fit
your budget. Sometimes a ‘discount’ can ‘discount’
the service you end up with. It’s better to look
for ways that you can both benefit so your wedding
day meets, or better yet, exceeds, your
expectations. There is no ‘do-over’ and everyone
involved, including vendors contributes to the
feeling of the day.
Getting what you want shouldn’t be at the expense of
relationships with the ones closest to you. How do
you want to remember your day? A lot of emphasis is
put on how you will look and everything around you
will look, but actually people won’t remember every
detail or even what was said, but they will remember
how they felt. They will remember their tears as
they watch the daddy daughter dance and hear the
words to ‘butterfly kisses’ more than what the
centerpieces were made of. So put some thought also
into how you want to feel and how you want your
guests to feel. Write it down as part of your theme
and goals. This will help direct a lot of your
decisions.
So if you know what you want, are willing to work
for it, and manage to keep everyone happy you are
going to have the memorable wedding of your dreams. |
