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Expect the Best
So you’re engaged. Where do you
start? Where do you go? How do you plan what’s
probably the biggest event of your life? It can be
a little overwhelming especially if you have a
limited budget.
The first thing future brides usually do is buy a
wedding magazine. They are full of photos of
designer dresses and massive weddings where budgets
are in the range of hundreds of thousands of
dollars. Since contentment lies in the gap between
expectation and reality, this ideal can set you up
for big disappointment when you look at your savings
account. You want the extraordinary wedding in the
magazines and on the TV, but you only have an
ordinary budget.
You set a budget, but forget about it once you see
the dress of your dreams and tally up the number of
guests you want to invite. It’s easy to get swept
away with the glamour of what’s available for
weddings these days. But is it worth it? According
to the “Bestman” from Wedding Bells Magazine,
“memories last forever, and debt almost as long”.
Think about what you want most for your life
together. Do you want to start your marriage with a
staggering debt that can turn into the number one
reason for divorce?
This is your day. It’s about the commitment you are
making with your chosen partner. The guests, the
party, the gifts, the details, are all peripheral to
this promise. The most memorable weddings are not
always the most extravagant. It’s the little
touches that guests remember such as the 1st dance,
or a moving speech. What guests really want to see
is a happy couple who look relaxed and madly in love
– that doesn’t cost a penny, just preparation and
contentment.
Expect the best for you as a couple and not some New
York magazine’s version of the best. If you manage
your expectations based on your resources, you will
maximize your contentment and have the extraordinary
wedding you expect. |
