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“Do it yourself” (DIY)
Guide
Research
shows that 95% of brides plan their own wedding
instead of hiring a planner to do it for them.
It’s not just budget constraints that make
you want to plan your own wedding. Your wedding is
the one day if finally is…all about you.
The problem is
there’s a lot to know about planning a wedding and
with so much information on the internet it can be
overwhelming. Here is a list of basics on how to do
it yourself.
Be
organized.
One of the biggest mistakes I hear that bride’s make
is they leave too much to the last minute. Start
with a binder with lots of sheet protectors to store
ideas/receipts/contracts and lined paper to make
notes.
Do
your research.
Ask questions and listen to family, friends, and
experts. Thank them for the ideas and then do what
you ultimately want. You never know where that
great and unique idea will come from.
Rally resources.
You probably have plenty of people around that are
willing and able to help…if you let them. Make a
list of what talents people around you have and
resources they may be able to provide.
Delegate.
There are a lot of details to take care of when
planning your own wedding. Don’t make one person do
everything, no matter how talented they are. Break
the duties down into manageable tasks that people
can succeed at and not feel overwhelmed. Choose
people that are reliable and if they’re not, give
them a task that isn’t crucial and have a backup
plan.
Be
flexible.
Make your wedding memorable and meaningful by doing
what you want, but be willing to compromise too. To
protect the energy of the day, manage the gap
between expectation and reality. Getting what you
want shouldn’t be at the expense of relationships.
Remember that people don’t always remember what they
hear, do, see and say, but they will remember how
they felt.
Coordinate.
You spend generally a year planning your own
wedding, but you can’t make those plans happen on
your wedding day as you will be busy getting
married. Your mother shouldn’t either. Some venues
include the services of an on-site coordinator.
Find someone you trust that can make decisions under
pressure and can direct people discreetly and
diplomatically. This person should not be part of
the wedding party and should be able to commit a
significant amount of time going over your plans
with you. You don’t want to be bothered with
problems during your wedding. It’s far better to
have one person that all wedding participants and
vendors can turn to for decisions as they are
required that is completely in tune with your vision
of your day. That way you can relax and enjoy the
fruits of your labours. |
